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Is the number of people trying to attack you without reason, the measure of your success???In these competitive times, everyone loves a hero. Not to be inspired, not for any learning, but to vent out their own frustration or jealousy at him/her. People do not like cricketers makin money walking the ramp, or working ads. They do not like their colleague getting a promotion or the beautiful wife of their boss or their neighbour's new car. Is feeling negativity towards success becoming the norm of society. A person who does not feel envious of someone else's success is considered a dead dog.
Jealousy is probably as old on earth as probably love in this world. From being jealous in love, it has spread to other realms, so much that if u r not attacked by someone without reason, or if someone is not jealous, u can assume u r going in nowhere in life. No one is jealous of a "nobody". So if you are successful, the first place to see it is in other people's eyes. They would stop wanting to mingle with u, they would bad mouth u, to sumhow try to reverse your success if they can help it. They will not think about themselves as much they would think about you & all the misfortune that can befall you.
We all know what happened to Pramod Mahajan. So instead of worrying about jealous people, try to use them as a measure of your success, walk like an elephant, between the barking dogs & stay focused on your goals without responding to these sensless attacks, this is the best way to rub the lesser humans face into the mud. These days in most cases they are not the ones who are unfortunate, you are.
Happy New YearHi friends
I am so happy that even though I did not write any blog in ages, everyone (almost everyone) visited my space & the some even tried to find where I was, I m so touched n very very pleased to have friends without faces.
Ok so where was I???????? Did I get over with the blog fever, as Alok rightly pointed out, it does after a while & the initial euphoria of writing intense thoughts no longer excites u, then most people simply disappear, like a few of our fellow bloggers vanished, leaving us to wonder if they were really what they told us or they were only fooling us all this while. (Pardon me friends if I m not making any sense or trying to make sense out of nothing)
My daughter had a bad viral fever for the last couple of weeks & it's all thanks to "Delhi ki sardi", every kid has cold, cough & they spread it around making it a vicious cycle. Her fever touched 104 degree Fahrenheit, and the kid who had practiced her dance steps for the good 3 months, never missed a single class even when she was unwell, suddenly gets this damn fever just 2 days before the show. I took her to the pediatrician (who wanted to hospitalize her, coz her fever wasn't coming down) that's when I told him that I want this gurl to perform onstage & it will be a big jolt to both of us, if she can't, he gave me a nasty look, almost disgusted with what I was telling him he said, "I can't believe u are worried about the show when your kid is so unwell". I felt very small too with the horrible thought & I hated myself for being insensitive.
I called all n sundry to inform that my kiddo won be able to perform & I wanted to cry each time I saw her costume, her shoes and remembered her excitement during her rehearsals. I spent two terrible sleepless nights, full of anxiety & all the negative thoughts, my daughter woke up at 6 0'clock in the morning, luking very fresh (still down with fever) and told me that she wanted to perform no matter what. I wanted her to go for the show too, but then she had fever & I only read about so n so star perform despite high fever, I had no idea how my daughter would go in that condition & all my well wishers including my hubs warned me against it as according to them this wasn't any Indian Idol show or anything, she wasn't an actress who had to go out there n perform.....................but for "HER" it was as big as it could be n she had to go, I was moved by the determination of this 6yrs old little gurl. I thought it was worth giving it a try, worse scenario would be her instructor would call me n ask me to take her home. I got up n fed her, bathed her, dressed her and then dropped her off to the stadium, where she had to go 4 hours prior to the show, I gave her all the medicines and informed her trainer, that she should let me know if there's any prob & she assured me that my daughter was in good hands I need not worry.
I came back home to get ready and go with my hubs and folks to watch her perform, my anxiety stayed with me & my mind was engulfed with all the negative thoughts, even when I was seated in the auditorium, I was so nervous. Came the announcement of my daughters item & I did not blink even for a second, my hands clapped non-stop, tears rolled through my eyes................I was so proud, it's difficult to explain in words, how much. My baby, my little darling jived on that number with a lovely smile on her lovely little, innocent face, she looked like the most beautiful kid in the world, the best and most amazing child, alomost like an angel. Well all parents think like this for their kids, but mine really luked like one that day.
I sighed and ran to pick her as soon as the song was over. She made me proud, very proud.
So now she's recovering from the fever, sum renovation going in the house, my computer not working...........and now writing from my mom's place. I hope to come back with a bang next week. Till then I hope all u guys party hard and bring in the New Year.
A very happy and a prosperous New Year to all of you..........may all ur dreams be fulfilled in 2006 & I hope n pray this year brings in peace throughout the world.
Why does winning and losing happen in streaks?How does tendulkar hit 5 centuries on the trot and then get out for next to nothing in the next 5? How does Subash Ghai make hit films all these years and then keep failing for the last 4 yrs? Its coz all good and bad things in life come in bunches and its all in the mind. The challange of the individual remains to make the most of the winning streaks and lose least in the losing streaks.
Winning streaks happen becoz of tremendous positivity, great instinct and a momentum of success. Losing streaks happen becoz the same things that worked earlier stop working for some reason, negativity and a spiral of failure starts unfolding. The key to ending losing streaks is going back to basics and rectifying mistakes in basic techniques or attitude and identifying the ingredients of success and eventually the losing streak ends. The key is to keep doing the rite thing, even when things r not working out. During losing steaks, tread with caution, do not use too much aggression, wait for the streak to turn around
How to make the most of winning streaks? Take larger risks than usual when u r playing well and life is rolling along. The more risk u take during gud times leads to enormous gains. In winning streaks, maximum mileage is gained by putting ur foot on the acclerator and taking bigger bets, being aggressive when u can afford it. As u achieve more, nevah forget to plant a seed for the future. As the cycle turns to a losing streak again, the seed that u planted will help tide over that.
The key to overall winning in life is managing these losing and winning streaks and the key is prolonging wins and turnig loses. Winning is about consistency more than a one off event.... Story of a PictureAfter much ado & thought I finally decided that I'll put up my pictures on my blog.
It requires lots of courage I must say, I am already feeling shitty. Why did I put those pics of me, all the people who liked me might detest my droppibg lips, n my front teeth aren't too good. But I love myself, that's what matters.
I've put few pictures, actually just five to begin with, in my Photos coloumn.
The picture of me, my husband & my daughter is very special coz it's taken at the monument of Love, my favourite Taj Mahal.
The picture of just the close up of my face hangs pretty on my wall in shades of balck & white & its a life size frame, which smiles at me when I am feeling low or depressed, it reminds me I luk better with a smile, even though I am not particularly fond of my teeth. But it's a very sepcial picture.
The picture of me standing against a door also stands in a life size frame on my wall, in shade of sepia, I often get mistaken by a poster in it & ppl think its a black & white era heroine. I love hearing the compliment, won't deny.
The one where I am smiling in a blue dress is also a very special picture, as it was taken when i was thinking sum special incident in my life, bout a special person, how lovely a sweet memory can make ur smile luk.
Hope you enjoy my seeing my pictures.
Can Negetivity Make you Suceed ???We all have negativity. Its an emotion that comes naturally to all of us. Negativity includes emotions like anger, jealousy, self destruction etc. Everyone has these unwanted traits, the politicians, the sportsmen, the professionals, the businessmen and even terrorists. Emotional people often fail at most things in life. Are winners non emotional. No everyone is emotional. Why do some of people in all of these categories succeed while others fail or remain mediocre performers???
The ones who succeed at most things in life are the ones who channelise this negativity into a fire in the belly and deliver. Negativity is a form of tremendous energy which if used properly can propel human beings to great heights. We have often heard cricket captains saying, we will play positive cricket, or businessmen being positive about the future. To think positive, u need to turn negative energy on its head, have a passion for the rite course of action. Those who can motivate themselves to pursue positive goals with the same energy that negativity generates succeed in their life's mission.
Negativity can destroy a person. Anger, jealousy, prejudice etc can consume a person's will to win. You need to learn to keep urself away from these emotions. But still there is negative energy produced in every individual which he/she can use for relentless pursuit of his/her life's goal. What motivated Sachin Tendulkar to hit balls for years to become a great batsmen, what motivated Gandhi to spend his entire life fighting for people's rights???Where did they get this extraordinary energy from??? They just used the negative energy that we all have for a positive cause.
So if u r feeling angry, jealous or stressed out about something u can't change, take urself away from these feelings, set a goal for yourself and then just pursue it as relentlessly as the negative feelings that followed u for years, and in a couple of years people will know u for ur deeds, not ur emotional outbursts. It works, believe me.....
Are we more screwed up than our parents ???The broken barriers of our generation include :
~ The wife going out to work, sumtime even at nite.
~ Open marraiges, where multiple partners maybe acceptable.
~ Ruthless business environment, which demand constant innovation or which threatens constant obsolance.
~ Salaried jobs which have moved on from being just nine to five.
~ Aspirations where no price is too much.
Comapre this what are parents had to go through:
~ Most wives stayed at home, not only at night but all the day long managing the house ( there were exceptions.........my mum was a working woman )
~ Once married both husband and wife stopped even luking at other men & women with any kind of relationship intention.
~ Business environment which was developing one product and milking it for 30 yrs.
~ Salaried job meant warming a chair for 8 hours and getting paid at the end of the month.
~ Aspirations were low as nothing much was available.
A lot of ppl from our generation are getting illneses like heart attack, back pains, anxeity, etcetra, much earlier than the expected age of 50 plus. Are we indeed breaking barriers or breaking our backs ???? Is all this leading to a better quality of life or was having less was having more ???
Are we moving in a vicious cycle, like a dog trying to bite its own tail ? Was contentment and a simple life better than this onslauught of consumerism and rat race for survival ???
Are we really more happy or more screwed up & will it get worse ??? As We travel through life................Journey of Life
It begins as a baby when we all come in to this world learning the good things of life, like food, breathing, parents, hygiene. The we go to school and find teachers who teach us how to talk, write and read. As we start watching movies, our mind starts getting dirty and we know there r some bad guys out there. As we reach teens, certain changes start occurring in our body and we become confused. As those confusions clear out towards the later teens, we go through persual, courtships, deceit, ditching, getting over and under it, wink.
Then we go to college and learn that one has to earn in order to maintain the grand lifestyle our folks afforded us. Once u r done with college, u figure out, no one wants u coz u got no experience and u need a degree in life in order to succeed. So after many years of moving laterally, trying to fig out what u want to do, u finally land up doing what u like.
Then all ur friends r getting married around u, so u think time to do it. As married life continues over the years, u realise its not what it first looked like. So u start concentrating more on ur work and become successful and people out side start to recognize u. Life falls into sum sort of an apple cart, and u don't disturb it.
Soon kids leave home to study & work, and u r left trying to figure out if it was all worth it ? But this is the cycle of life, where u r continuously getting marked, as u move to each phase of life. The difference is that ur 10th, 12th, graduation, post grad, ect. gave u certificates where as the other phases like courtship, marriage, family, kids, health, middle age and then old age all have challenges and its important not to do very badly in any one phase coz it screws up the overall average. It applies to ur life as it does to ur grades.
Journey of life is a series of grades, where you are getting marked at every stage. |
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